Written By: Darren Rose
Don’t get me wrong; it’s great to be yourself when it comes to dealing with the men in your life, or people in general, for that matter. Why should you pretend to be someone else? This can’t possibly lead to anything good now, can it? Well, it all depends on the angle you’re coming from. But most times, when it comes to the people you know and care about, ignoring some questions can prove to be the smartest choice ever. I’m not talking about major stuff – always get the skeletons out of the closet. But it’s better to try to avoid those small details or insignificant, but at the same time awkward topics.
Let’s take your partner, for instance. You need to perceive him like your equal, but at the same time you must never forget that most of us men are in fact a bit inferior when it comes to emotions, feelings and expression. I’m not making this up; researchers have put a lot of work into their studies and came up with some not very surprising conclusions. According to them women use more of the verbal, sorting and, of course, detail-oriented left side of their brain, while us men use the right spatial intuitive side of our brains more often. We all know what that means, But acknowledging this can definitely turn your tide of love and bring extreme happiness to your relationship and that is exactly what you want.
By avoiding a few tricky questions you can improve and strengthen your relationship, so make sure you never ask your man things like…
Question 1: What are you thinking about right now? Sure it’s great to have top-notch communication and never have to worry about him keeping something from you, but you also need to see things a bit different: Most guys just don’t contemplate happiness or your relationships the way you do. They rarely ask themselves philosophical questions, like you probably do, and they rarely sit around analyzing what happened during the day. They don’t ask themselves right or wrong questions, and they are not stressed about insignificant details.
Sometimes, or, better yet, most times a blank look on your guys face is nothing more than a blank look on your guys face. So maybe your guy is just feeling tired or exhausted, or maybe he’s thinking he has to fix his broken headlight in the morning. Don’t go too far imagining he is thinking about leaving you for the corner store waitress and stop asking him what is he thinking about. He needs his space, and you don’t want to bombard him with suspicions. Let your man be and let him enjoy the silence – you know you ladies love your “quiet time” every now and then to.
Question 2: Would you still date/love me if I was blind/disfigured/crippled? Now I know you’re just probably trying to get your boyfriend to tell you the things you want to hear, and this is not really a bad thing. But let him let your man make the first move. Let him be the one who says “Honey, I would give you one of my arms if you needed it.” Let him tell you how special, cool, funny, beautiful, sensitive, smart and sexy you are, and don’t force him into telling you these words just because you feel like hearing them. If he doesn’t want to talk about it, he’s likely just going to tell you what you want to hear to get it over with before the Lakers’ game starts anyway.
Question 3: Are you seeing someone else? “Just face it; you just gave the look to your secretary. Stop lying to me, I can smell her perfume from a mile away.” Men who are really faithful and don’t have the habit of cheating on their partners will be strongly offended by such questions and the end result will likely be anger and frustration. So avoid asking this sort of question, even though you feel your jealousy level going through the roof. Think of these questions as obvious signs of insecurity and start doing something about that. You need to first resolve your own issues, make peace with yourself, and your insecurities will disappear.
Question 4: Why on Earth would you do that? Especially when by “that” you mean something like career-changing, car-buying or clothes-buying decisions. Most men like to receive advice when they ask for it. They like to see they have strong and independent women beside them, who are not afraid to guide them whenever they are in need. But letting your cat out of the bag can prove the exact opposite. Us men hate it whenever we are being criticized for something we already did, and for the things we decided on our own. So try to show your man just how much you care about him by finding clever ways of reaching out to him, maybe a bit indirectly, by letting him know he still holds the power of decision making that is so dear to him.
Question 5: How am I in bed, compared to your ex girlfriends? And how many girlfriends did you have before me, anyway? Can you be really precise, please? This is another chaotic range of questions that cannot possibly lead to anything good. So unless you come across a guy who doesn’t care much about your feelings and doesn’t find it too difficult to tell you how much your bedroom performance sucked, as compared to his previous 30 girlfriends, the man sitting in front of you is probably going to have a very difficult time dealing with your questions. It’s better to not step on this ground and keep your curiosities to yourself. It’s also best not to compare his performances with the ones of your ex’s lol.
Question 6: Is this the best you’ve got? Whether you are talking about the duration of your intercourse or the actual length of his pioneer, you should never be so brutal to actually rub his poor performance in bed in his face. Men are very easy to be hurt and offended when it comes to these sensitive matters, and these questions could have a destructive effect on your mans self confidence and self esteem. This can really undermine his man hood and change your relationship. If you’ve got some sort of problems in this particular area, take the initiative and engage him in some role playing scenarios and try some new things before you discuss this very delicate issue.
Ladies please avoid these 7 questions at all cost to avoid having a bunch of awkward moments and petty arguments in your relationship. Trust me these questions and the answers you will receive are just not worth it.